|JULY 2016-Purposeful goal-setting|
Definiteness of purpose, together with a positive, mental attitude, is the starting point on every worthwhile goal- American author Napoleon Hill.
Eyes on the prize
It has been said that 95% of all human beings have no clear goals in life. That means, if you ask 100 people that you meet in town, what their goals are, 95% of them will not be able to answer specifically. Are you surprised?
More surprising is that most people believe that they have a goal. When you ask them what kind of goal they have, they will answer, ‘Happiness, good health, richness, a good family life, a long life’ or something like that. These are not really goals, but circumstances wished. It is unfortunate that our circumstances are what mostly steer our lives and therefore decide for us what we become, what education or even jobs we get. That is a fact.
Before we can hope to get to some place, it is first important to know where we are going. It is crucial to start with this kind of thinking while we are young, so we can start to form the right habits early.
It is also the difference between goal-setting and definiteness of purpose. While a goal is something relatively specific you want within a specific timeframe, definiteness of purpose is something you wish to achieve more than anything else in a general life time frame. That is probably why there are so many people who have a goal, but in reality they are far away from what you can call the definiteness of purpose.
It has been said that "all we have to do is to keep our eyes on our goals. Obstacles are the frightening things that you will see when you take your eyes away from your goal". We can also say that the definiteness of purpose represents your whole travel through life, while a goal can be defined as the different steps on the way to your main purpose.
Write it down
What would you have chosen if you had the possibility to fulfill your 5 greatest wishes, which had to do with what you could be, have, do or achieve?
Let's think about this for a minute. Have you ever asked yourself this very important question: "What is it that I really want in life"? If you have never asked yourself this question, this is the time to do so.
Sit down in a quiet place, with a blank sheet of paper and a pen in front of you, and write No 1: "What is it that I really want"?
To start with the possibility that you will write some material things you wishes to have, is quite natural. Or maybe you want some immaterial things.Write down all of them, and don't put any question mark on whether you believe you can achieve them or not at this point.
Next, arrange your list according to priorities. That is, if your list has 10 things, put the No. 10 on the thing you wish the least, and then continue from the rear end until you reach No 1, which is the thing you want to have or do more than anything else in your life.
Write then this new goal on the top of a new piece of paper, and ask yourself question No 2, (while you are looking at the goal you have written) What is it going to cost me?
Write down everything you can think of that it will cost you of time, money, hard work, sacrifices and setbacks for you to reach your goal. This way you are really planning how to get to the goal, before you really have started working on it. And when you feel that you have found out what it will cost you, you are ready for question No 3, which is: Am I willing to pay the price?
If you are not willing to pay the price of hard work, sacrifices or whatever it is that you have to do, in order to reach your goal, you will never reach it, due to the fact that you most probably will give up on the way, because you don't have the necessary perseverance to reach it. If your answer to question No 3 is a clear yes that you are willing to pay the price in order to reach the goal, the time to start has come.
The power of your subconscious mind
Napoleon Hill writes in his book ‘Think and grow rich’, that you should write down exactly what your goals are, then exactly how you intend to reach them. Then exactly when you want to achieve them, then exactly what your service will be, in order to reach the goal.
He tells you to READ that statement out loud every morning and night, and as often as possible during the day. While you read, see yourself in a position of having reached your goal, and make a decision that you will believe that you will reach it, at the time you have set.
Every idea or wish that is frequently repeated and kept in your mind will be taken over by the subconscious mind and will materialize. Remember that humans have total control over their thoughts. Repeating them often ensures they become a part of you. When your subconscious mind is put to work this way, you will discover that things will start happening. Suddenly, you will get an idea that will help you reach your goal, or you will discover a book, more information, a person who can help or other things that will get you closer to your goal. This will again help you to reach your goal. While you are working towards your goals, the goals are also working towards you.
What the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.
Words by Rino Solberg
Art by Movin Were
First published in BINGWA Magazine Issue 15 2015